Granted, part of this may stem from the fact that we're having a do-it-yourself backyard wedding on the smallest budget we can... but after careful observation, I've come to believe that there are certain patterns to the wedding planning process that nearly all soon-to-be-newlyweds can relate to.
And so, inspired by the infamous Five Stages of Grief, I present to you the five stages of wedding planning:
- Enthusiasm. The wedding is still a long way off -- so long off, in fact, that it doesn't seem like a real thing yet. You look through wedding magazines and wedding websites daydreaming about the perfect wedding, picking out colors, outfits, and decorations.
- Fatigue. You've sent out the invitations and now you're working out the nitty-gritty details of your big day -- making phone calls to caterers, finding a photographer, coordinating with your wedding party -- and you begin to feel worn out as you come to realize just how much there is to do.
- Fear. The big day is approaching fast -- too fast -- and a slight panic starts to set in. This includes both practical worries about running out of time (Did I wait too long to place that online order?) as well as more general anxieties (What if I trip midway down the aisle and fall on my face?)
- Denial. By now you just want to curl up into a ball and hide. You question your sanity for having decided to put on a wedding in the first place, and you find yourself fantasizing about eloping for a quickie Fat Elvis wedding in Vegas. You spend unhealthy amounts of time on activities unrelated to wedding planning, such as blogging.
- Relief. Everything magically works itself out somehow, the wedding goes off without a hitch, and everybody has fun. Then you head off on your honeymoon, frame your pretty wedding pictures, and live happily ever after with your shiny new spouse.